why is the urge to win so strong? is winning a game everything? to some, it is. when i come back from a game of, say badminton, the common question from others is… “Did you win?”
i think winning is good. it gives u a good feeling. what feeling is that, i’m not sure. is it a superior feeling? is it because you’ve shown that you’re the better player? or was that your boss you’re trying to beat just because u feel suppressed at work… (i don’t play any games with my boss thankfully! i’ll be trying hard to let him win!!) whatever the feeling is, i guess it’s just a sense of satisfaction.
we don’t think of these things after the game. if you lose, you feel bad. if you win, you feel good. end of story. but i have been dwelling deeper into why i feel the way i feel. i don’t feel good when i win. i feel best when i was able to conquer my inner demons, winning or losing.
i can get really frustrated if i can’t execute a shot. was i not patient enough? was i not fast enough? was i just not good enough? actually, none of those matters. it doesn’t matter that you’re not good or fast enough. you can always compensate by really knowing where your limitations are and work on your strengths. but when it comes to a game, i falter because i do not have that extra edge, that extra strength to hold on just that bit longer.
if only there’s a way to remind yourself just to hold out that bit longer… it makes all the difference! i think the same concept applies to life, love and everything else that’s worth doing… by holding on that bit longer…
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That’s so different from me. I get a high just from winning… haha. I hate to lose.
But yes, it will make the difference if we can hold on just that bit longer. It’s like crossing that thin line between success and failure. One more second could make all the difference.
Did you have fun?
that is probably a better benchmark!
Yup, winning is definitely a very good and satisfactory feeling. And, sometime it can blind our eyes.
While losing is a really bad feeling, but it’s important to learn to handle the feeling and come back to be a better winner.
I have bad experience handling those losing feeling. I think if given the choice, no one like losing. But only through losing, we can grow tougher and stronger.
yup, like moongster said, most importantly, let’s have fun. To learn, to grow, and to teach…