I’m a loner

Just finished reading a book called Social Intelligence: The New Science of Success. There’s a short snippet of a social intelligence profiling, i.e. testing my social intelligence, and I found out I’m a loner. Rewind back to yesterday, I was trying to put a line just below the title in my blog http://shanglee.com. After fumbling about with the code, I just couldn’t find where to place it. Eventually I decided to ask for help from RichardHong.com. He uses the same theme, although modified. After I fired off the email, I went back into the code again and voila! found it instantly. I came to the same conclusion. I’m a loner.

I like to solve problems on my own. Asking for help somehow makes me feel that I’m escaping from the problem and not confronting it. If I choose to escape (so goes the reasoning in my head), I feel I will lose the opportunity to learn from the problem. And yet, after letting go of the problem, the solution suddenly seems so obvious.

So thanks to RichardHong.com, not because he answered my question (which he did!), but because I am now more willing to ask questions. If I do ask you too many questions, just remind yourself that I was never like this, and you should give me time to adjust. If that doesn’t help, you can still remind me to let go, and that the solution will present itself to me. If you still find me annoying, you can always ignore me. Then I will feel bad about myself and lay a guilt trip on you, which you will respond eventually. Just kidding… why will I feel bad about myself? I will only make you feel guilty, that’s all!

Now, my next list of problems… categories and tagging. I somehow can’t get my head round for a working model for them. Categories seem good to look for big topics easily, but tagging is just so much more “fun” and less restrictive. Any ideas on how to combine the two?

A special mention to wuijimon and moongster for their advice on getting me my own hosted site. Btw, wuijimon‘s now got his own hosted blog! Oh, speaking of new blogs, i’ve also just found out that a chinese blog has topped the technorati list! Check out his blog if you know Chinese.

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