Comments on: The conflict is in my perspective http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/ Thank you for reading Tue, 21 Jun 2011 05:40:47 +0000 hourly 1 By: DT http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-2096 DT Mon, 20 Nov 2006 06:40:06 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/#comment-2096 Hi Shang Lee. Ive read your post and i sympthise. My company is also very similar. Poor internal process, lousy managers, but the fact of the matter is most SMEs in singapore are like this. If you want systems, empowerment, process then you need to join a MNC. You are right to say that its all about your perspective, its up to you. Let me tell you in most situations you are facing, people will: a) bitch about the process or boss etc and do nothing. b) do nothing and just go with the flow to earn their pay cheque. c) want to do something and get fustrated and leave. My article at www.sgentrepreneurs.com is for a 4th option, which is you decide to stay and want to be sucessful in such an environment. Ultimatly, you are correct to say that the decision is yours. But you also need to be aware what is good or bad is a matter of perspective as well. A labourer sweating in the sun every day would probably love to have this job of yours. Many of my friends are shift workers, cooks, technicians, and they always envy me that I sit behind a desk in air con. Anyways good luck in your decision. :) Hi Shang Lee.

Ive read your post and i sympthise. My company is also very similar. Poor internal process, lousy managers, but the fact of the matter is most SMEs in singapore are like this.

If you want systems, empowerment, process then you need to join a MNC.

You are right to say that its all about your perspective, its up to you. Let me tell you in most situations you are facing, people will:
a) bitch about the process or boss etc and do nothing.
b) do nothing and just go with the flow to earn their pay cheque.
c) want to do something and get fustrated and leave.

My article at http://www.sgentrepreneurs.com is for a 4th option, which is you decide to stay and want to be sucessful in such an environment.

Ultimatly, you are correct to say that the decision is yours. But you also need to be aware what is good or bad is a matter of perspective as well. A labourer sweating in the sun every day would probably love to have this job of yours.

Many of my friends are shift workers, cooks, technicians, and they always envy me that I sit behind a desk in air con.

Anyways good luck in your decision. :)

]]> By: Oas Kamal http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-275 Oas Kamal Mon, 14 Aug 2006 20:03:43 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/#comment-275 I think so...it definitely took me a while to figure it out though, and I would be lying if I said that I don't have to revise my life goals every now and then, but I'm finding that my tweaks are getting less and less major and don't take away from my overall goals in life. It's kind of a powerful feeling once you get there, but I can't speak too soon...you never know when you can get humbled by a change in the winds :) I think so…it definitely took me a while to figure it out though, and I would be lying if I said that I don’t have to revise my life goals every now and then, but I’m finding that my tweaks are getting less and less major and don’t take away from my overall goals in life. It’s kind of a powerful feeling once you get there, but I can’t speak too soon…you never know when you can get humbled by a change in the winds :)

]]> By: Shang Lee http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-266 Shang Lee Sat, 12 Aug 2006 14:57:28 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/#comment-266 Yup Oas, the key is answering "what do I want", which is still eluding me. Do you know what you want? Yup Oas, the key is answering “what do I want”, which is still eluding me. Do you know what you want?

]]> By: Oas Kamal http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-258 Oas Kamal Fri, 11 Aug 2006 19:03:43 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/#comment-258 Hope things are working out better for you even as we speak! I found for myself that pretty much all jobs have points where you go outside of your comfort zone, no matter what you do. I guess the real question for me during those times was 'was it worth it?' The answer was actually dependant on something I didn't have, and left a bigger hole, which was 'what do I want?' I attended this Life Planning seminar, and the types of questions that we were told to ask ourselves were: "If I had all the money in the world, what would I be doing?" or "What do I want my obituary to read?"...you know..cliched stuff like that. But once you realize where you really want to go, and create that life plan, not just for your career, but for all aspects of life (career, family, knowledge etc.) and make it congruent, then all of a sudden you should find that your job is a means to that end, so even if the going gets tough, you realize that its all part of a bigger effort to reach the top of my mountain...kind of like someone who's trying to win a gold medal in running...they probably don't love the training 24/7/365, but they put up with it because they have an end plan, and are willing to sacrifice a bit to get it. Just some random thoughts...:) -Oas Hope things are working out better for you even as we speak!

I found for myself that pretty much all jobs have points where you go outside of your comfort zone, no matter what you do. I guess the real question for me during those times was ‘was it worth it?’ The answer was actually dependant on something I didn’t have, and left a bigger hole, which was ‘what do I want?’ I attended this Life Planning seminar, and the types of questions that we were told to ask ourselves were: “If I had all the money in the world, what would I be doing?” or “What do I want my obituary to read?”…you know..cliched stuff like that. But once you realize where you really want to go, and create that life plan, not just for your career, but for all aspects of life (career, family, knowledge etc.) and make it congruent, then all of a sudden you should find that your job is a means to that end, so even if the going gets tough, you realize that its all part of a bigger effort to reach the top of my mountain…kind of like someone who’s trying to win a gold medal in running…they probably don’t love the training 24/7/365, but they put up with it because they have an end plan, and are willing to sacrifice a bit to get it.

Just some random thoughts…:)

-Oas

]]> By: Shang Lee http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-236 Shang Lee Mon, 31 Jul 2006 14:11:59 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/#comment-236 Thanks for the comments guys. I didn't expect it to sound as bad as I wrote it. One thing good is, I'm doing tai chi more diligently just to balance the stress. ;) Thanks for the comments guys. I didn’t expect it to sound as bad as I wrote it. One thing good is, I’m doing tai chi more diligently just to balance the stress. ;)

]]> By: wujimon http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-235 wujimon Sat, 29 Jul 2006 22:11:11 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/#comment-235 wow.. sorry to hear about all the troubles, man. I went thru a similar thing until my son was born. Nothing like the birth of your own child to put things into perspective. What's the point of working like a nut and being so stressed out that by the time I get home, I can't really enjoy my home or family b/c of work? While I haven't gotten to the point where I don't get phased by things, I'm slowly trying to put my priorities in order. wow.. sorry to hear about all the troubles, man. I went thru a similar thing until my son was born. Nothing like the birth of your own child to put things into perspective. What’s the point of working like a nut and being so stressed out that by the time I get home, I can’t really enjoy my home or family b/c of work?

While I haven’t gotten to the point where I don’t get phased by things, I’m slowly trying to put my priorities in order.

]]> By: chessman71 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/comment-page-1/#comment-234 chessman71 Sat, 29 Jul 2006 12:56:28 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/2006/07/29/the-conflict-is-in-my-perspective/#comment-234 It seems to me that you take everything to heart and feel that you have to solve all the problems at work. Is that accurate? If so, then I recommend that you learn to distance yourself from all that. Don't you just hate those people that are never phased by what happens at work? It's like they don't care. I decided to join them, and my quality of life has gone up tremendously. It's not my or your job to save the company. If the boss is too stupid, then let the company fold and move on. I now do my work and call it a day. When people ask me what I think about things and how the company is doing, I tell them I don't have an opinion. It never made a difference anyway. I just do the work in front of me. It feels great not carrying the compnay on your shoulders. Trust me. It seems to me that you take everything to heart and feel that you have to solve all the problems at work. Is that accurate?

If so, then I recommend that you learn to distance yourself from all that. Don’t you just hate those people that are never phased by what happens at work? It’s like they don’t care. I decided to join them, and my quality of life has gone up tremendously.

It’s not my or your job to save the company. If the boss is too stupid, then let the company fold and move on.

I now do my work and call it a day. When people ask me what I think about things and how the company is doing, I tell them I don’t have an opinion. It never made a difference anyway. I just do the work in front of me.

It feels great not carrying the compnay on your shoulders. Trust me.

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