Dating my wife
I don’t date my wife enough. When I was at work, I have regular meetings with my team. It was an effective way to get updates with what’s going on, what went right, what went wrong, how can we solve the problem etc. Most of the time I try to probe answers from the other team members as each would have encountered similar problems with different approach to resolve it.
With a team of 2, (ie me and my wife), it’s more important to have this regular meeting. After I’ve quit my job, I do see my wife everyday, and more hours than before. Yet, the structured meetings become more important than ever.
Don’t confuse regular face time with spending time with your wife. It’s different. The regular face time allows every little thing that’s happening to surface immediately. However, it doesn’t provide the necessary space to allow the meaning of these little things to appear.
A structured approach allows an expectation that a meeting is approaching. It allows the brain to be prepared. To simmer on the information that has happened over the week.
It makes the date a meeting of minds with depth. It allows for a deeper exchange of thoughts rather than the daily chatter.
The daily chatter has an outlet. The deeper realms of the mind requires an outlet as well. When you’re with someone as close as your spouse, or your best friend, it provides a safe outlet for these deeper thoughts.
As you journey within yourself, remember that you don’t have to journey it yourself. A leg up with someone close to you will enhance your thoughts much more than just being with yourself. The trick is to make your mind be comfortable with such sharing sessions.
And how do we get such comfort?
Promote familiarity through the regular meetings and in a familiar setting. Set this up, and you’ll see your relationship blossom to greater depths.
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