Comments on: Arguing your way out of a fight http://shanglee.com/blog/2009/12/22/arguing-your-way-out-of-a-fight/ Thank you for reading Tue, 21 Jun 2011 05:40:47 +0000 hourly 1 By: Shang Lee http://shanglee.com/blog/2009/12/22/arguing-your-way-out-of-a-fight/comment-page-1/#comment-43062 Shang Lee Thu, 24 Dec 2009 04:20:41 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/?p=929#comment-43062 @S.Smith: thanks for dropping by. agree on the aggressive posturing, but i think that posture is also more honest. will have to depend on the tone of the voice then. as for push hands, i don't think it's meant to train first strike, in fact, i think it's meant to listen to the first strike, and strike later. i think there is a popular tai chi saying "后发先至“ which means "strike later but arrive first", literal translation! @Jay: I believe this is the first time an author of a book ever come to my blog. Thank you!! I do have a 3rd interpretation of the audience. Myself. Sometimes, the most critical audience is myself, and persuading myself takes a bit of patience as well. Thanks for the comments again. @S.Smith: thanks for dropping by. agree on the aggressive posturing, but i think that posture is also more honest. will have to depend on the tone of the voice then. as for push hands, i don’t think it’s meant to train first strike, in fact, i think it’s meant to listen to the first strike, and strike later. i think there is a popular tai chi saying “后发先至“ which means “strike later but arrive first”, literal translation!

@Jay: I believe this is the first time an author of a book ever come to my blog. Thank you!! I do have a 3rd interpretation of the audience. Myself. Sometimes, the most critical audience is myself, and persuading myself takes a bit of patience as well. Thanks for the comments again.

]]> By: Jay Heinrichs http://shanglee.com/blog/2009/12/22/arguing-your-way-out-of-a-fight/comment-page-1/#comment-43055 Jay Heinrichs Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:49:02 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/?p=929#comment-43055 Interesting interpretation of my book; thanks for mentioning it. I know nothing of push hands, but Aristotle said that character trumps logic and emotion in an argument. If you like and trust someone, you're much more likely to be swayed by what he says. To win that trust, you should (a) convince your audience that you know what you're doing; (b) make the audience believe you have their best interests at heart; and (c) show that you share the same values. Most important, keep in mind that the persuadable audience may not be the person you're arguing with, but those who are listening in. And I know what you mean about arguing with your wife. She knows all my tricks. And she's a babe. Jay Interesting interpretation of my book; thanks for mentioning it.

I know nothing of push hands, but Aristotle said that character trumps logic and emotion in an argument. If you like and trust someone, you’re much more likely to be swayed by what he says. To win that trust, you should (a) convince your audience that you know what you’re doing; (b) make the audience believe you have their best interests at heart; and (c) show that you share the same values.

Most important, keep in mind that the persuadable audience may not be the person you’re arguing with, but those who are listening in.

And I know what you mean about arguing with your wife. She knows all my tricks. And she’s a babe.

Jay

]]> By: S.Smith http://shanglee.com/blog/2009/12/22/arguing-your-way-out-of-a-fight/comment-page-1/#comment-43051 S.Smith Tue, 22 Dec 2009 16:57:46 +0000 http://shanglee.com/blog/?p=929#comment-43051 Face-to-face is our most aggressive way of posturing. If you're attempting to win an argument, this is not a nice way to behave. Try standing next to your opponent, as if you're on the same side, gesticulating into the distance, as if you have a common enemy. You'll win. So will your opponent. And it's nice. Push hands, one the other hand, is an ideal place to learn how to strike first. Face-to-face is our most aggressive way of posturing. If you’re attempting to win an argument, this is not a nice way to behave.

Try standing next to your opponent, as if you’re on the same side, gesticulating into the distance, as if you have a common enemy. You’ll win. So will your opponent. And it’s nice.

Push hands, one the other hand, is an ideal place to learn how to strike first.

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